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MajinLink 05.07.2011#1

I would like to hear you guy's stories, especially the people who've done the online dating thing. That's a true place to meet some pyschos, and weirdos.

I've had a little experience a few years ago with it. Kept getting tired of how most people would treat each other on the site. Some girls won't even message back, some will and randomly drop off a normal conversation for no reason, some will talk on the phone, and once the subject to a date comes along they get cold feet.

I had one girl say she was too busy all the time to go out. She seemed pretty cool, and we had happened to actually be in the same grade in middle school (yet never really met each other) so we had mutual friends. Got her to make a date once, and then she forgot to come. Basically wanted to tell her a few things but kept it polite. For someone who had no job or school she was too busy to care about someone's feelings.

I met my current girlfriend over a year ago. It's not exactly the most common relationship though. I'm about 2 years younger (22), interracial (I'm white, she's Asian), and her parents are strict as anything. Her parents were originally refugees from Laos so they have the mentality of what American parents would have been like in the 50's.

But race and culture doesn't make too much of a difference in the relationship. She was born and raised in America, so she's basically like any girl here. Her family is Buddhist, and I found it shocking when she told me her old boyfriends (who were Christian) told her she was going to hell. I'm agnostic, so there's really no conflict there, and made the conversation easier when her mom brought it up.

Now we are talking more seriously about the future. She wants to get engaged, and so do I in the near future, but her strict parents are going to be a bit of problem. Her mom is defiantly full of it though, she says "her people don't do bad stuff" when it comes to sex/marriage/relationships/how one acts. Her father recently tried to leave her mother for a 18 year old girl he met in Laos on a visit. Many of my girlfriend's cousins got knocked up, and some of them do drugs or drink under-aged. And yet she wouldn't let my girlfriend stay overnight during a family visit to my brother's house where she would be sleeping the same room as my mom.

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I would like to hear you guy's stories, especially the people who've done the online dating thing. That's a true place to meet some pyschos, and weirdos.

I've had a little experience a few years ago with it. Kept getting tired of how most people would treat each other on the site. Some girls won't even message back, some will and randomly drop off a normal conversation for no reason, some will talk on the phone, and once the subject to a date comes along they get cold feet.

I had one girl say she was too busy all the time to go out. She seemed pretty cool, and we had happened to actually be in the same grade in middle school (yet never really met each other) so we had mutual friends. Got her to make a date once, and then she forgot to come. Basically wanted to tell her a few things but kept it polite. For someone who had no job or school she was too busy to care about someone's feelings.

I met my current girlfriend over a year ago. It's not exactly the most common relationship though. I'm about 2 years younger (22), interracial (I'm white, she's Asian), and her parents are strict as anything. Her parents were originally refugees from Laos so they have the mentality of what American parents would have been like in the 50's.

But race and culture doesn't make too much of a difference in the relationship. She was born and raised in America, so she's basically like any girl here. Her family is Buddhist, and I found it shocking when she told me her old boyfriends (who were Christian) told her she was going to hell. I'm agnostic, so there's really no conflict there, and made the conversation easier when her mom brought it up.

Now we are talking more seriously about the future. She wants to get engaged, and so do I in the near future, but her strict parents are going to be a bit of problem. Her mom is defiantly full of it though, she says "her people don't do bad stuff" when it comes to sex/marriage/relationships/how one acts. Her father recently tried to leave her mother for a 18 year old girl he met in Laos on a visit. Many of my girlfriend's cousins got knocked up, and some of them do drugs or drink under-aged. And yet she wouldn't let my girlfriend stay overnight during a family visit to my brother's house where she would be sleeping the same room as my mom.

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Jumpdates 07.07.2011#2

Hmm, this is probably true of many relationships out there. Unfortunately, people view religion completely from their own perception and is usually man-made. The example you provided about the Christians saying you will be damned in hell is completely contradictory to their belief where God himself is the only one that can judge who goes to heaven or hell.

Like you said the double standards are becoming the norm and it only aggravates the situation with parents and children.

A tip for you, is to get on the good side of her parents and show them that you do not judge and only looking for their well being and trust in you. Show that you are the capable and mature person that oversees other peoples faults through example.

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( Edited 07.07.2011 21:27 by Jacob4000 )